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Evoking Comfort: Summer Fruit in My Gran's Kitchen

8/10/2020

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PictureOkanagan peaches - a part of My Personal Comfort Plan
The other evening, as I stood in my kitchen preparing Okanagan peaches for the freezer, the setting sun glanced through my window, bathing the room in a warm, golden light. My mind flashed back to moments in my mum’s kitchen, then deeper in to my childhood to my gran’s kitchen. I saw three generations of girls and women working together, carefully placing rows of hand-picked raspberries and blackberries on freezer trays... the smell of cinnamon and the feel of aching muscles from milling fresh apples for apple sauce... and each of us taking a turn to stir the fragrant, sticky pot of Christmas pudding for good luck.

Feet firmly planted in my kitchen, I noticed how my body reacted to these sense memories. I inhaled more deeply, feeling my breath move oxygen through my body. My shoulders relaxed, a smile played on my lips, peace filled my heart. And my first thought was: I need to add this to my Personal Comfort Plan.

I had spent some time several months ago reflecting on the things that would bring me comfort through illness and my end of life. Things like:
  • my own pillow and hot bean bag if I’m admitted to a care facility
  • my favorite picture of me breastfeeding my youngest child and a photo of my eldest smiling toothlessly on a beach in Hawaii, and
  • notes for how I’d like my loved ones to treat me like matching the pace of their breath with mine for a soothing presence.
I recorded these and other instructions in My Personal Comfort Plan (a guide and checklist with 7 pillars of personal comfort) and shared it with my loved ones so they would know how to bring me comfort when I need it most. After my sense memory the other night, I spent a few moments adding this note to my plan:

I’d love to gather with my daughters and other women in my life to prepare raspberries, blackberries, apples or peaches. I want to feel the magic that happens when women share work: the conversation, connection, laughter and sense of purpose as we nurture our families through food.

I entered this comfort wish in the “Readings and Rituals” pillar. More than just the act of preparing traditional food, this comfort wish will gather the women I love in this world and summon my mum, my Gran and other matriarchs from my family line who have already crossed over, wrapping me in a blanket of surety and love.

Preparing your personal comfort wishes is an important step in preparing for the future. Take a few moments to order My Personal Comfort Plan now and begin thinking about the things that would bring peace  - maybe even joy - through illness and your end of life. Is there a family tradition you'd like to experience one last time? A smell that transports you to your grandmother's kitchen? A passage from a book you'd like to hear as you let go of this life?  
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What other comfort wishes might help you complete your life with love and dignity? ​
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